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STEP #1 - CONFESSION (OR EXPOSURE OF THE WOUND) I talk about this at length in other places. But no healing of emotional injuries can take place without it. The first step to any emotional healing is revealing of the wound itself. Much like a child who scrapes his arm and hides it with his hand and bringing the wound as close to the body as possible, so do we have a tendency to do the same thing. Our instincts are to hide the pain as deeply as possible. We ignore what happened, we pretend it never happened, and we try to bury it under a flurry of activity and self deception. James 5:16...

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Truth is somewhat of an elusive concept. What one person considers to be true another may not. Witness the debate over things like evolution, creation, the existence of God, the Big Bang Theory, and so forth. I hold God to be true. An atheist does not. But for the purpose of this article, we will define truth as: 'exposing that which is hidden.' In essence, that is what all truth is. It is an attempt to bring into the light that which has lain hidden or covered. Deception, or a lie, is an attempt to hide, to bury, to cover up something. Truth, therefore, is a type of confession, a revealing...

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Now if you did the heart breaking, that would be an altogether different situation. If you broke someone's heart accidentally, you can probably help the healing process with a heartfelt apology and doing everything in your power to make up for the wrong. If you did it intentionally, for whatever reason, the odds are unless you think you made a mistake and try to fix it, everything you do will only add to the other person's pain. But if you are a friend, relative, or bystander who knows of someone who has had their heart broken by someone else, there are some things you can do to help. DON'T...

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Loss of sleep, an ache deep in the bit of your stomach, frequent tears, a heart seems to get heavier as the days go on, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment are all signs of a broken heart. How, if possible, do you heal from a broken heart? There is no quick fix. If you are looking for a magic wand, some spoofal dust, or something like that you won't find it. Healing from a broken heart is a process, very similar, actually, to that of grieving for a loved one that has died. The grieving process takes time. It isn't something that you can just wave away or flip a light switch...

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The only sure way to prevent a broken heart is to isolate yourself 100% from every human being on the planet. It will be people who break your heart. However, attempting to stay away from people, leads to an even greater problem: A cold heart. If you interact with people at all, you'll wind up having your heart broken at some stage of your life. This is because loving people makes you vulnerable to them. The more people you love, the more likely you'll have your heart broken. Think about it, the people who have hurt you the most are also the people you claim to have loved the most. Strangers...

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You either are hurt or will have your heart broken eventually. This is the price of love. Yet when it happens to you the absolute worst thing you can do is wall yourself off from people. Here's the thing; it will always be a person or a group of people that hurt you. This is unavoidable. Our natural reaction is to isolate ourselves from people because we fear having our hearts broken again. This is a mistake of huge proportions. Here are some common fears when your heart has been broken: * You fear what others think of you. * You are embarrassed over how or why you were hurt. * You fear...

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It is important to recognize some of the main symptoms of a midlife crisis before you can do anything about them. This article will outline the top three symptoms and what you can do. FEELINGS OF A WASTED LIFE If you are thirteen, you probably aren't feeling like your life has been wasted--after all, too much of your life still lies before you. But if you are 50 years old you probably realize the majority of your life is over. If, upon looking back on your life, you have feelings of regret and of a wasted life you are experiencing one of the key symptoms of a midlife crisis. It could be that...

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Making mistakes is part of life. But making mistakes in front of your peers, family, friends, or loved ones often brings a sense of embarrassment. Fearing this embarrassment will invariably cause you even more humiliation. Find out why and what you can do. Embarrassment is the natural result of believing that others see you as a fool, stupid, or even obsolete. When boiled down to its most basic component, embarrassment is a feeling of rejection. That's right-rejection. When people laugh at us, snicker, point fingers, or do any other act of humiliation we feel rejected. It is the fear of rejection,...

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I've been counseling for over a decade and in dealing with people who suddenly experience a midlife crisis, I've learned several things. First, anyone can have one no matter what their occupation, history, or accomplishments are. I'd have to say there are several factors or a combination of factors that contribute towards a mid-life crisis. They can affect anyone who isn't prepared for it. I do think there is a way to avoid a midlife crisis. But to do so, you have to prepare yourself for it. There are several contributing factors to a midlife crisis. We'll discuss the two most common ones...

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When we are young we get into our head that we are somewhat invincible. We think that the world will just lay down at our feet. As a result, we unintentionally set a pattern that billions of others in both the present and the past have fallen victim to. It usually leads to a midlife crisis. Let me explain. No one makes decisions in life thinking that if they do, they will be miserable. Everyone makes decisions on what they believe will bring them a measure of happiness. If they did not believe it, they wouldn't do it. Young people the world over make the same mistakes as the previous generation-having...

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